Monday, July 4, 2016

FOMO

We've all suffered from FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) at some stage of our lives.

Tonight was July 4 and we had plans to join friends on the roof top of their apartment building and watch the fireworks together.

As life goes, a few of my kids got sore throats and a late night was the last thing they needed if they want to get better faster. So being the mom that I am, I sent my oldest to join his buddies and watch the fireworks while I put the rest of the gang to bed.

My 8 year old was literally sobbing that its just not fair that her older brother gets to 'have the best time ever' while she's stuck in bed at home.

I told her to imagine she had a garden. And that her neighbor had a garden. Imagine she was always looking at the neighbors garden and wondering what the neighbor was going to plant and how he takes care of his garden.

If she spent all her time looking at the neighbors garden, whats going to happen to HER garden?

Nothing. Either all her plants will die or it will be overtaken by weeds. But it definitely will not be a pretty garden.

So whats the moral of the story? Take care of your own garden, then when your garden is doing well, go ahead and look at your neighbors.

We both agreed she had a sore throat. And the best thing to do when we have a sore throat is take a warm bath, have some nice not tea with honey and an early night. That helps us heal. Its taking care of our garden.

And yes, her big brother was having fun, but it wouldn't have helped her get better to go out and have a late night.

And she really understood it. And she was okay, and she hopped into bed with her tea and went to sleep.

And really, thats what it boils down to. Taking care of our own gardens. Doing the things that work for us without worrying about what everyone else is doing.

When we are happy and content with who we are, what we are doing and where we are, then 'fear of missing out' will never really apply to you because for the most part, you will always be exactly where YOU want to be, not where 'everyone else' is.

So water your garden, plant some flowers, rip out those weeds. And have a fabulous summer doing the things that work for YOU.

Always,

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Alef Bet Reading Curriculum Review

A few months ago I posted a review on the Alef is for Apple Hebrew Reading Curriculum. You can take a quick peak at the Review by clicking HERE.

I cannot tell you enough how wonderful this curriculum is. I have used it with every one of my kids as well as Hebrew School kids and they ALL love it.

I was fortunate enough to review The Teacher's Guide CD which contains the "5 Step" teaching method, game templates and homework.

Here are a few sample pages from the CD:




I highly highly recommend this package- hop on over to their website and get it for your little ones-

Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos!
Always,

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Simple Solutions

We went to the playground this morning. My oldest son who's almost 11 made it VERY clear that he did NOT want to join us for the trip.

I don't leave him home alone just yet so he didn't really have a choice but to come.

He stomped to the car, slammed the door and looked out the window the entire 5 minute drive.

When we arrived, he got out of the car, slammed the door and stomped to the nearest bench, plonked himself down, arms folded and made it very clear that he had no interest in being there.

All the other kids were playing on the swings, the slide, baseball, soccer, having a ball (no pun intended).

I sat down next to my usually easy going happy go lucky kid wondering what on earth was going on with him.

Could it be he's just growing up? Did something happen with a friend or a sibling or me or my husband? Is it school? Is he not well? What on earth is going on with my child? Do I need a therapists intervention? Is it physical? Is it emotional?

I started asking him questions, trying to figure out what was going on. The answer seemed to be 'NO' to every question I asked. 'Did someone say something to hurt your feelings?' No. 'Is something going on at school?' No. Every answer was a dead end.

After about a half hour of the kids playing and him pouting, I finally turned to him and asked, 'Did you eat anything for breakfast this morning?'

To which I got the answer that made so much sense... 'No.'

The second we got home, he made himself a grilled cheese sandwich, had a banana and a plate of scrambled eggs followed by a big cup of milk... and a laugh that he will never ever forget to eat breakfast again.

He was hungry.

That was it.

No therapist needed. No emotional issues going on. He just need a nice big breakfast.

So yes, there are times when things need to be dealt with and proper help and intervention is needed.

But there are also times when all our kids need is a sandwich. Or a hug.

Sunday, May 15, 2016

When you're an Introverted Mama


'Mommy, how come the electrical wires are always lined up along the streets and not just randomly placed?'

'Mommy, how can you tell the difference between a satellite and a star?'

'Mommy, you know that bridge by the beach near Roses house that you can open that gate to get to and when you stand on it you can look down and see the water come under you and its near the hotel that had the Luau that we saw when Bubby and Zaidy came to visit and blah... blah... blah... blah...'

'Mommy, can we get a pet eagle?'

'Mommy, are you even listening???'

Honestly, sometimes mommy is not listening. Actually very often mommy needs to switch off for a little bit as the talking and questions can just be so much that at times, mommy wants to scream.

But she wont scream, because she loves you more then life itself. Because she understands your need to be heard and will do her absolute best to listen to you and answer your questions as often as possible.

But my darling children, there are many moments that mommy just needs silence. Mommy needs to be left alone with her thoughts and not answer any questions or make any decisions or give any opinions.

There are times during the day that mommy needs to switch off to recharge because mommy simply cannot listen right now.

Being an Introvert has its amazing strengths, but being a homeschooling mother, who is with her children all day, yet really longs for silence is one of the biggest challenges I have faced as a mother so far.

I haven't found the perfect solution yet. But I'm sure it will all work out. It always does.

Have a wonderful week,
Always

Sunday, April 3, 2016

Pesach Dollars, Pesach Jobs

Ah, that time of year where its so easy to get overwhelmed with the mere thought of cleaning, cooking and planning for Pesach.

Last year I came up with a system that was so fabulous and have started using it again this year. I needed to share it because if it helps you as much as it helps me, it will make me very happy!

Step 1:
Print out these Pesach Dollars on card stock and cut them out.

Step 2:
Tell your kids that for every Pesach job they do, they will get one Pesach dollar.


Step 3: 
Tell your kids that on Chol Hamoed Pesach, they get to cash in their dollars and go to the store and buy whatever they would like. Pesach dollars expire on Yom Tov so they only have 3 weeks to start earning.


Step 4:
Watch and smile as your children happily help clean the house for Pesach!

At present, my kids, including my 5 year old, have cleaned their entire bedrooms for Pesach on their own. They emptied their drawers and closets, cleaned with a spray and a wipe and put everything back.They have started on the playroom, different shelves and also the bookshelves.

Our kids are SO capable, just make it exciting, give them some time every day to go on Amazon to see what prize they plan to buy, something to really look forward to. If you would pay $ for cleaning help, you can use that $ towards these gifts. Its a win win.

Good Luck!

Thursday, March 31, 2016

Its a Giveaway! *** Dubys Pesach List***

Okay everyone, its that awesome time of year again, where we get to scrub our homes from top to bottom, plan meals, Seders, guests, trips and ALL that super fun stuff!

I am so excited to share with you a review as well as a Giveaway of Duby's Pesach List. Click Here to check out her website and take a peek at what its all about.

Here is the table of contents to give you a really good idea of what is inside this fabulous Pesach Planner:

And now, in honor of all of you being such awesome readers of this blog, Duby is giving a 10% discount to you using the code JHS613. So RUN on over to her website DubysPesachLists.com and buy a copy for yourself, your mom, your sisters and your best friends. They will love you and you will love the Planner.

And while you're at it, enter the Giveaway below so you can have an extra copy to save for your daughter when she grows up and makes Pesach on her own... Good Luck!


Wishing you a wonderful week and Happy Pesach Cleaning!
Always,









Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Bribery vs. Compensation

I grew up with full time cleaning help and never had to lift a finger in my house, so this whole 'delegating chores to your kids' thing really does not come naturally to me.

I read all these articles on how important it is for kids to have chores etc. and I agree with every detail in these articles. The only thing that is very hard for me is to nag or fight with my kids to do something. I honestly would rather just do it myself if I am going to have to give up a huge amount of emotional energy to get my kid to sweep the kitchen floor. Yes, I am sure in the long run it will be good for her blah blah blah, but this is me, and I just cant go the begging, fighting, threatening route.

BUT... Baruch Hashem, I have come up with a system that really really works for me.

Cleaning help is very unreliable and expensive where we live, so I have someone who comes in 1-2 times a week to CLEAN- not tidy. She scrubs the floors, bathrooms, under beds and couches, windows etc. So thats really good. But I need the man power for day to day activities to keep the house tidy: loading and unloading dishwasher, sweeping, laundry, bedroom and playroom maintenance, vacuuming, counter and table wipe down, even cooking.

So here is what I came up with and it has been working amazingly for over a month and apparently it takes 30 days to establish a new habit, so I can consider this a success!

Each child gets to pick something on Amazon for $20 and put it in the cart. They then get a chart with their name on it and 40 boxes to fill in. For every chore they do, they color in a box. When all the boxes are full, we buy the item they put aside.

I am not joking when I tell you that my 10 year old walks into the kitchen and unloads the dishwasher every morning, without me having to say a word. My 7 year old vacuums the living room, no questions asked. My 5 year old sets and clears the dinner table. I KNOW kids should do these things naturally without being rewarded, but the way I see it, they are learning that when they work hard, they will get nice things. I also believe the more they do it, the more naturally it will become, case in point, my 10 year old got his Lego after a month of doing chores, and continues to do things without me asking- not as vigilantly as before, but he's doing it until his next chart goes up.

The kids are so happy to help, to fold and put away laundry, sweep the kitchen etc. and there has been NO nagging, begging, fighting or pleading on my end which honestly was my main goal. And everything is getting done.

And now when I do need to ask one of the kids to do something in the house, it is not met with any excuses. It just gets done and they run and color in a square. Thats it.

I really don't consider this bribery. I consider it compensation for chipping in in keeping the house clean. The kids bedrooms are clean every day without me having to ask. The laundry is folded and put away daily. The dishes are washed and put away daily, and things are running smoothly. Kudos to the moms who have their kids doing this without a reward system- hats off to you. But for me this works wonders. Worth every penny.

Good Luck in your home management endeavors!
Always, 


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